The Child who inspired A Place of Light
The following story was the inspiration for A Place of Light. After working with this boy, we wondered how many people of all ages were not understood because no one was looking at them in the correct way. And so, we created APOL, a safe haven for intuitive people where they can gain understanding, knowledge and control with their abilities.
The intelligence in James's eyes was lively and ancient. However, his behavior was difficult at best. Still nonverbal at the age of three, James spent his days throwing things over the half walls that surrounded the tiny toilet and sink. He also delighted in knocking down everything that was put away or built by anyone. Frequently he would go to the children and poke them or pull their hair then run away laughing. The other children were wary of him and usually avoided his presence. There was no success in reasoning with him as he simply pulled away and had no speech of his own. Even though James was three, he was in a two year old room as he could not handle the three-year-old classroom.
As the director of an integrated preschool, which meant that children with special needs ranging from speech problems to violent behavior were integrated into the mainstream classes, I helped the teachers with the children who presented challenges. Special education teachers, therapists and aides were also on staff to provide the necessary support. However this support staff was only provided in the morning or for short times during the day.
Watching James in the classroom, I could empathize with the early childhood classroom teacher. He was never still except during naptime. When he was not knocking things down or throwing things across the room, he ran wildly across the tables. As a mom of a young man who had been a difficult child, I could empathize with the mother. As a professional, I looked into this child's eyes and saw nothing but a lively intelligence.
When I would spend individual time with him, he was fascinated with the balls as they rolled down their mazes and loved to build with the giant Lego blocks. We communicated quite well together as I would find his understanding reflected in his eyes. I found that softly stroking his cheek while singing to him would help him to settle for a nap immediately. He would sleep long and hard for nap times, sometimes sleeping an hour past the other children.
I was astounded that he had been labeled as autistic. He had eyes that saw clear through to another's soul.
I spoke to the special education teacher (I, too, am a certified special education teacher) about the diagnosis. With an all-knowing smile, the young teacher, who was an excellent teacher, told me he had all the symptoms of an autistic child and that the diagnosis was correct. I knew further discussion would only serve to alienate her from me.
The mainstream special education program took the approach of asking the mother to medicate him. The mother was resisting any direction from the special education committee in regards to medication and all other recommendations.
What to do?
After about six months, I finally realized that the light in his eyes was that of a telepathic individual. I am not sure how I came to that conclusion, but the realization came to me quite clearly. I was thoroughly annoyed with myself for not grasping it earlier. But, when it came to telepathy, I knew exactly whom I needed: my son, David.
I went to my son, the natural telepath, and practically begged him to come to the day care and try to "talk" to James. I was very grateful that he agreed.
James easily climbed on David's lap. I knew from the shift of energy around David that he was talking to James, but could not understand what James was doing. His fingers were gingerly touching David's throat and mouth. I asked David, who explained that James was "trying to figure out where the words were coming from." I was delighted; they could communicate.
However, never in my wildest imagination could I have predicted what was revealed! James began to make throwing motions, which was, of course, how he spent his day at the classroom. David looked over to me and muttered, "oh boy." I exclaimed "what, what?"
James was still held in a lifetime when he had been an engineer for an army. He had designed catapults! No wonder he spent his days knocking things down and flinging toys over the little wall. David explained to him that he was now in another body and was a small boy. Even though he agreed with James that speaking aloud was a slow and clumsy way to communicate, it was necessary for him to be a part of the world he had chosen to join. He could be bilingual, so to speak! James took all of this to heart, for within the next few weeks, he had a speaking vocabulary of 30 words. Only a few minutes were required to set this child on a broader path than he had been following and eliminated a world of heartache for all those around him!
Below is an excerpt from our book, Soulful Parenting, Chapter Seven, "Discipline and the Spirit"
Discipline, only after love, is the most important thing a parent can give a child. However, discipline is not to be confused with punishment. Punishment is probably the least effective thing a parent can offer a child. Punishment only teaches children to lie, make excuses, learn ways to avoid being caught, and resent authority as well as create innumerable emotional problems. It is generally arbitrarily administered and designed to create suffering, which is not our natural state of being.
Discipline is the ability to control oneself and one’s actions. Discipline is based on a partnership with the child in a movement towards being able to express the best that is within oneself. Discipline is allowing natural consequences to occur, providing help to the child when needed to get past those natural consequences. Most deeply spiritual people have had to exercise supreme discipline in regards to their physical and mental endurance during their preparations, which causes them to draw upon their spiritual strength to bear up under their ordeals. Edgar Cayce himself was told that he developed the ability to go outside his body in order to heal his wounds.
Parents can best teach discipline when they do not fake reality. In remembering the Law of Self, we are to know the truth of our beings. We do not pretend that things are otherwise than what they are. Maslow heralded this ability in his eight characteristics of the self-actualized person: the ability to shed defense mechanisms.
The Intuitive Child
We have often been asked to describe the intuitive child. This causes some difficulty for us at A Place of Light because we do not like to label people, especially the young.
As explained in our book, Soulful Parenting, we need to help the soul learn how to integrate itself with the body. We know a great deal about the developmental stages of physical and intellectual growth, but do not address how to incorporate that growth with maintaining the spiritual awareness. Instead of keeping our children spiritually awake, we often put them to sleep!
So, because we are spiritual beings first, always view your child as the ancient soul s/he is. Many children who act out do so because they are misusing their abilities or unable to use them at all!
A second thing that is important to remember is that the body develops its world view by the time it is five years old! We do not have a long window of time during which to keep this connection open! We cannot wait until the body is "older" to begin working on this! When we ask a two year old to make a small wound feel better, they simply do it. A twelve year old with no experience would simply look at us and wonder "how on earth do I do that?" Children learn 75% of what they know by their third birthday! We need to have awareness and understanding of the spirit self hard wired in the brain by that time!
The process of developing a world view is done subconsciously based on experience. It is the thought that one will return to first throughout the body's life. So if a world view is developed that people are always fair and kind, that is the first reaction held when interacting with others. If the entity decides it is a world where there is unpredictable misery and pain, then that will be the primary expectation and can only be changed by a lot of hard work as an adult, usually not until in the 30's. If the entity learns through trial and error, that lying can avoid much unpleasantness, then lying will tend to be the first option. See how it works? So if the entity is taught to stay connected with the spirit world and to seek the answers there, to trust the messages from there, then the life is a much simpler one, full of wisdom.
Yes, children are running on two tracks... physical/mental/emotional development and keeping the spiritual self alive. It is our jobs as parents to keep up with both! Yikes!!